The first of three signs of codependency is that you fantasize that the person you are with is a better version of themselves. The reality of who they are is considerably different from what you fantasize. Pretending that the person is better than they are is enabling. It is an early sign of more advanced denial. Denial is when, despite your thoughts and feelings, you act entirely counter to them and over some time. Recognizing your needs and feelings is essential to being in a healthy relationship. If ignored, it could be a red flag that you are in a co-dependent relationship.
